It may seem that getting closer to another person and enjoying both emotional intimacy and physical contact is the most natural thing in the world, but nowadays, we get more used to living as separate individuals. That’s why starting dating someone becomes a challenge for many people. In this guide, we’ll talk about the most important things to know before dating someone and give some useful tips both for beginners and “professionals” in dating.
How to start dating?
Today, most people find romantic partners online just because it’s easier, faster, and more convenient overall. Here are a few international dating sites where you can find the right person and have a great dating experience:
- —a dating site with the largest dating pool
- —a website with lots of single people and many Slavic girls steaming to find love
- —perfect for meeting people from Europe, best for finding a Slavic girlfriend
- —a place where you can meet a Latin best friend or a Latin girlfriend
- —a top online dating site that also works like Tinder & Instagram
Let’s say you chose one of these or other dating apps or sites. What’s next? Here are some tips to get started:
- Write a good profile, a witty bio, and a catchy headline
- Don’t pretend to be someone else
- Use fewer adjectives to describe yourself and focus more on specific events, hobbies, and adventures that show who you are, too
- Don’t try to find the most successful and the hottest partner—focus on how a person represents themselves on the site, their sense of humor, locations they visit, and specific hobbies, and try to find someone with whom you can have a really good time
If you’re going to find a perfect match in real life, here are some recommendations for you:
- Be realistic and not too idealistic, don’t look for an imagined soulmate, look for a real person
- Have an honest conversation with everyone you meet to show who you are—if a potential partner is interested, they’re interested in dating you, not the imagined you
- Ask your old friends who know you well enough to introduce you to someone who may be a good match for you
- Engage with life
If you met someone attractive, don’t rush things—enjoy all the stages as they are and remember there’s nothing wrong with the “we’re just getting to know each other” stage.
Dating someone new? Here are some tips for you
Relationship advice is the most useful for those who’ve just started dating someone new—at this stage, you can avoid mistakes (including mistakes you’ve made in your previous relationship) and build a deep, healthy emotional connection. So, what should and shouldn’t do a person to meet this goal? Here are the answers:
- Don’t stalk your new partner on social media and networking sites, don’t try to learn something more than a partner tells you—that’s how true honesty and trust are built
- Don’t text a partner 5 times in a row within a short period of time
- Enjoy a good conversation and discuss important spiritual things, not just your daily routine
- Never try to make your partner jealous (dating life will never be healthy if you try to get more attention using this method)
- Have a first date or a second date where touch will be natural (ice skating, movie night, etc.)
How should you feel at the beginning of a relationship? There’s no single answer to this question, but generally speaking, you should enjoy this stage—there should be no anxiety and constant fear of doing something wrong. If that’s what you feel, that may be your reaction to a partner’s behavior (if so, the question is if they are a good partner for you), or maybe you are stressed out because of the possibility of getting close to someone, and in this case, you should make an effort to find the root of the problem and change your own behavior.
How to know if you should date someone
We all pay attention to social statuses, looks, and the “level of success” of potential partners overall—that’s how people evaluate each other, and there’s nothing wrong with it. However, psychologists note that in reality, all these criteria are less important than genuine compatibility. How to understand you’re compatible? Here are the really important criteria to consider to find a good match or at least to consider if you don’t know what partner can be called “your perfect match”:
- You have similar hobbies and like the same TV shows
- You represent yourself in a similar or even the same way to new people
- You have the same level of education
- The same things make you laugh
- You talk like you’ve known each other for a pretty long time without any discomfort
How to start dating? Basically, if you’re ready to get closer to someone new, just do it, preferably considering all the information that we provided above—it will help you understand if you’re going to start a relationship with the right person and if yes, avoid common mistakes that most of us made at least once in our past relationships.